I don't know what I'm going to write but all I want to do is find the words to tell you what you mean to me. If you see we are two different persons but in these seven months we have been trying to love each other's those ""So different" traits. And sometimes these differences might have caused misunderstanding, pain between us. But still not for a second this love for you has left me - may be I was hurt, may be you caused pain, may be I had told you to get away from me but the truth at these moments is I have been lost, hurt but I never want you to go away, I never want you to leave me alone. I want you to understand what has gone wrong & I want you to make it wright somehow. I want you to hold me tight & tell me that you understand! But what makes our love special is that it comes out through every obstacles with more intense passion, color, understanding & care! I want you to know on this special day that you are love of my life and you'll always be... I'm always by your side... Thanks for bringing so much luv & happiness in my life I luv you :) "
[ A letter from a woman to her husband express her deepest feeling, pain & all those odds which she went through after becoming woman from his lady love. ]
The point I would like to discuss does life change after marriage? If YES, in which way? Most of my colleagues, known friends who are married used to express "Life has changed :(". I'm still trying to understand why??? One of my friend (having good sense of humor & a very practical approach in life) fall in love with in a girl far north of India. Both of them hardly met or talk. He is in such a state that you can find out his condition from the following few lines which he wrote to me in one of his mail. Here are few lines i just cut sort the lengthy mail.
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i m coming to bng to meet u... landing @10AM... hope u be there... love u, :)" [No need of name...] ---- ---- ---- ---- ------ &*&$^! %@%$ &*%#@!)( %@&*(&%@ i was blank... i don't know how to react. I didn't know how to react.... what to reply back... i thought i am wandering in some wild dream... pinched myself... oouch.... very much true it is... What will happen next??? ... but at least now, i need to pick the girl from airport... the girl, whom i had met couple of times... i liked her in the very first look... may be once or twice had gone to with her... but somehow i liked her... her eyes, her hairs... her lips... her smile... her ear-rings, her hindi... her word, 'I love Rhotak'.. she was perfect... :) Most of the people won't agree but she looks like Vidya Balan... (I feel). So i headed for the airport... and its long way... and i made sure to buy fresh red roses for her... lots of roses... and while riding my bike I could visualize her face... and it brought a shy smile... and may be a euphoric sense.. as monday morning i am not only skipping office but meeting someone who made my day (may be coming years). I gone see her after 3 months... i knew i will miss her... so I had copied her 'stamp size' photo from her Orkut profile. Anyway in that 10x26 resolution photo no one can make difference between ape man and I. but somehow i could recollect and fill those blurr pixel with my imagination... and make a picture perfect. I looked at the watch... it is still 8:30... and the song which was playing in i-pod... "Tu hi meri shab hai.. subah hai.. tu hi din hai mera..." really sinked with my mood. I was thinking of her so much, i couldn't even see the traffic signal going green... and was standing in the front row of traffic AND 'honk... honk... ' a majestic truck started honking.....And i woke up.... Checked the time... it was still 7:15 in the morning... i opened my eyes... "oh god damn... monday morning...
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This is not the only situation you can find lot more like this. If this is, what some one feel when he/she in love then what exactly went wrong after marriage. Every alternate day in news paper, there are cases where newly married couple hardly few months or years, came across in such situation that they kill themselves. Even if both of them are well settled was working for good MNCs, good educational background & lot more in life. What happen, what went wrong, what make them to take such disastrous steps against humanitarian?
If try to analyze any these case there must be some trace of betrayal, losing faith on each other & most importantly misunderstanding. Many youngsters in IT sector or other business do like to find their own love with whom he/she settle down. Out of the blue most of the marriages happen on that basis. Recently in a study made for metropolitan of India in every 4 marriages 2 get divorce. If this is the case then I think we are not far away from West.
In most of the suicide cases either we blame to men or to the women. I really don't like to blame any of them. What I feel "Criticism i s the easier thing to do...". What I believe that behind all of this the real loop hole is "Lack of Communication". This might be form either side. Some men are not outspoken, they don't like to discuss any of matter more often, compare to that women do like discuss by nature. In that case what happen that leads to a not knowing what to believe argument. This also happens to two best friends for a long time getting married.
So my advice to all the new couple or folks planning to marry take your time to find your life partner. Not the perfect partner coz nobody is perfect in this world. Try to find someone with whom you can match yourself. Also start communication after marriage. Coz most of the case tragedy struck due to lack of communication. Never stop communicating. Try to create time to communicate in your busy schedule life. Without that there will be a gap developed between your relation and that gap or space creates all this misunderstanding, unusual argument, losing of faith and all that sort.
So moral of this is Stay healthy, live happily and never stop communicating. Don't do anything stupid that give sorrow, pain & agony to your dear and beloved one.
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